Friday, January 18, 2013

My Cluttered Life

I’m as guilty as the next procrastinator about putting things off because “I’m just too busy.” It seems the more I try to simplify my life the more complicated it becomes.
One reason – at least an excuse I use – it that I have to declutter and organize in order to simplify. And believe me, that takes time.
There was a time in my life when it wasn’t much of a problem to get organized. As I reflect on it, I think there are two reasons for that:
1.   I didn’t have as much “stuff” back then to organize (and I've saved a lot of those items from way back when).
2.  As I’ve grown older, I’m slower about getting things done. In other words, I don’t have the energy, and sometimes the inclination, to put things in their place or toss in the trash.
One of my sons came over last weekend to go through boxes that contained some items from his childhood. He’s in his mid-30s. Some of the boxes were nearly 50 years old – from my teen years.  Did I mention that I might be a pack rat as well?
My wife and I decided that we’re going to go through one box a week. A few things we may keep but the majority of stuff will end up going to charity groups and the rest in the trash can.
Now if we can just find the time to get started.
Until the next time…

Sunday, January 13, 2013

Story Songs: The Girl from Ipanema

I believe most of  us have had crushes on someone only to be ignored, or worse yet, to be invisible.

That's what comes to mind when I listen to "The Girl from Ipanema," a huge international hit in 1964 for singer  Astrud Gilberto, guitarist-singer Joao Gilberto, and American jazz great Stan Getz.   It reached No. 5 on the U.S. charts. 

The bossa nova tune, with lyrics by poet Vinicius de Moraes (Portuguese) and Songwriters Hall of Famer Norman Gimbel (English) and music by Antonio Carlos Jobim, is about a beautiful young woman who strolls to the ocean at the each day. As we used to say a few years ago, she was a looker.

"Tall and tan and young and lovely
The girl from Ipanema goes walking
And when she passes, each one she passes goes, 'ah'"

The description of the way she moves as being like a samba also brings a image of casual grace and sexy:

"When she walks, she likes a samba
That swings so cool and sways so gentle
That when she passes, each one she passes goes, 'ooh'"

Part of her cool demeanor is going about her business without noticing the admiring glances:

"But each day she walks to the sea,
She looks straight ahead, not at me"

And later:

"And when she passes I smile -- but she doesn't see
She doesn't see, she never sees me."


I know the feeling. Sigh.

Photo by Sergio (Savaman)  Savarese
The girl in the song is based on Helo Pinheiro, who was 19 at the time the song was written. She is still quite a looker at 69.

The song is reportedly the second most recorded tune in history, behind The Beatles' "Yesterday." Among the luminaries who have versions are Frank Sinatra, Amy Winehouse, and Kenny G.

"The Girl from Ipanema" won the Grammy for  Record of the Year in 1965. The song is a timeless classic that I never tire of hearing.

"The Girl from Ipanema" lyrics



Sunday, January 6, 2013

Making Contact

There are many ways for authors to get the word out about their books. Blogging, social media, traditional media, websites, and personal contact are among the effective avenues to reach people.

I have author friends such as Steve Flairty and Don McNay  who write columns for web-based publications such as KyForward.  McNay is also on the Huffington Post.

Romance author Taryn Raye is a prolific blogger, touching on several topics every week, and not just about writing. Children's author Marlis Day writes an effective blog about her books, upcoming events, and personal reflections. 

Personal websites are another important way for writers to connect with readers. Mystery writer Bill Noel recently posted the release of his new novel, "Missing," at his website. Young-adult writer Tim Callahan has an effective website to get the word out about his Kentucky Summer series. 

Most successful authors have web portals, either personal or through publishing houses. You simply need to do a web search to find them.

A lot of authors, such as Sue Grafton and Teresa Medeiros, can be found on Facebook. Just click the "Like" button and you'll get updates on what they're doing. 


Author information can also be found at Amazon.com, BN.com, Goodreads.com, Shelfari.com, and other book-related sites.

Another way is to participate in interviews on other websites. I was  fortunate to appear on Taryn Raye's and Tugboat Design's insightful interview pages.

Other authors, such as Steve Demaree and Lynwood Montel, find that  face-to-face contact with readers at book fairs, festivals and other events create an effective word-of-mouth marketing campaign for their books.

Because of my background, I still treasure traditional media. I enjoy author interviews and book reviews in newspapers, magazines, radio, and television. 

I believe that the most effective way is to have a mix of media.

As a reader, do you have a preference in finding information about authors and books?

Until the next time...

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Write Resolutions


It's hard to believe we're already into a new year.
I was able to realize a few writing goals in 2012, such as publishing my short-story collection, "Laments," completing the National Novel Writing Month challenge, and producing blog posts on a somewhat regular basis.
Now it's time to move on. I'm not one to set many, if any, resolutions. As I've grown older, I've learned to move at my own pace and do what I can. I don't like setting unrealistic -- unreachable -- goals. And I believe I have good writing habits.
I think the primary goal for any writer is to write. And that's what I'll be doing on a daily basis. That's been something I've done for me for quite a long time. I guess it must be the journalist in me who cranked out news stories for many years.
I'm currently working on a second volume of short stories. If life doesn't interfere, I can generally write one a week. I hope to produce about 15 this time. If things work out, I'll publish "Laments 2," Laments II," "Laments Two," or whatever.
I also have my raw NaNoWriMo manuscript that I plan to rewrite after additional research. I still haven't looked at it since I saved the last draft on Nov. 30. I know there's a lot of work to do on it so perhaps that's my excuse for not getting back to it. But I will.
Lastly, I plan to read more this year. I downloaded Jon Olson's "The Ride Home" on Dec. 31 to get me started. I'd like to read three or four books a month -- fiction, nonfiction and poetry. Writers read.
What are your writing resolutions?
Until the next time…

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Losing a Best Friend

Two weeks after writing about a new addition to my family, I'm heartbroken to say we've lost a treasured and beloved member. Baxter passed away on Dec. 28.
We had Baxter for eight years. We got him when he was about 5 or 6. The previous owner wasn't sure about his age. She gave him to us after having a baby, feeling that she couldn't give him the attention he deserved. We are so thankful for her act of kindness.
We welcomed Baxter, all six pounds of him, into our home. We already had another dog, Bucky, who was not quite a year old but we believed he needed a canine friend. They became best buddies.
Baxter was a special friend. He would communicate with us by going around in circles. If we asked him something, he would respond affirmatively by going in a circle. If not, he'd just look at us.
My son, Sean, lived with us about the time Baxter came into our family. Baxter adored him. He couldn't wait for Sean to come home from work. He would smother him in doggie kisses.  Even after Sean moved away, the mention of Sean's name made Baxter's ears perk up. And when Sean came to visit, he knew there would be kisses from his "little buddy."
Baxter also loved to travel in the car. When I asked, "Do you want to go bye-bye," he'd go around in circles and head to the car. One of his favorite places was River View Park. Again, I'd say, "Do you want to go to the river?" and he responded accordingly. I spent many days walking Baxter and Bucky along the banks of the Kentucky River.
Baxter was a fussy eater. While we gave him a variety of dog food, he loved pizza, spaghetti and Pringles Stix. I only had to mention those words and he'd go in circles and follow me to his feeding dish.
Baxter slept with us as well. His preferred spot was on a pillow. My wife and I didn't mind. It was comforting to have him so close, all curled up and touching my head. And if he had to get up in the middle of the night to potty, he would gently tap me on the head or shoulder. He was also my alarm clock because he was an early riser.
Two-and-a-half years ago we took Baxter to the vet. He was having problems breathing. An X-ray revealed spots on his lungs. The vet thought he might have cancer. He also had an enlarged chamber in his heart.
We didn't know how long we would have him so we tried to make everyday special for him. But Baxter proved to be a tough little fella. He ended up outliving Bucky, who passed away in October 2011.
After Bucky died, Baxter would take short walks by himself, sometimes before daybreak and sometimes when I came home for lunch. He'd be gone for five-to-ten minutes, and return. If we weren't at the front door, he would stand there tapping on it.
Baxter was getting older and somewhat frail. Aside from his daily walks, he was content to rest on the bed. 
Yesterday afternoon, Baxter took his leisurely walk. When he didn't return in ten minutes, I grew worried. I found his lifeless body behind my next-door neighbor's house.
My son Justin came over and we buried Baxter in the back yard, next to Bucky.  Many tears have been shed by my wife and me because Baxter brought so much love and joy to our lives. He was our "handsome scamp" and "little tiger."
But let me tell you that in his last 24 hours Baxter got to go bye-bye in the car to pick up my wife at work, had some cheese pizza, two Pringles Stix, and shared the pillows in our bed before took his fateful walk across the Rainbow Bridge.
I'll always miss you, Baxter. Thank you for being you and part of my life.
Until the next time…

Friday, December 28, 2012

A Sweet Time of the Year

I find that the Christmas season brings back sweet memories.

My wife asked me to purchase some candies for her to take to work. Among my choices was divinity. My mother, who passed away nearly four years ago, loved divinity. She would make it during the holidays along with fudge, peanut brittle and other goodies. 

A few days ago while picking up a few items at Wal-Mart, I saw boxes of milk chocolate cherry cordials. My sister Sheri would always receive a box for Christmas. It became a tradition in our family. I would bet someone gave her a box this year. 


My Dad's favorite candy is chocolate-covered creme drops. I remember that he used to eat them with crackers. I guess he was an early salty-and-sweet advocate. He also loves those gooey orange slices.

My daughter-in-law Melissa makes mouth-watering peanut butter balls. She usually gives us a tin container of sweets for the holidays.

My wife Mary bakes delicious pumpkin pies for the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays that we share with family and friends. We finished the last one yesterday. 

And at the office we have folks bring in their favorite sweets throughout the holiday season. It's a temptation too difficult for my sweet tooth to resist. I'm even a fool for fruit cake.

No wonder my perennial New Year's resolution is to lose weight!

Until the next time... 




Sunday, December 23, 2012

Story Songs: Goodbye to Love

I believe the Carpenters' "Goodbye to Love" has to be one of the saddest love songs ever recorded. It simply tugs at the heart  from start to finish. 

The song, written by Richard Carpenter and Songwriters Hall of Famer John Bettis, was a departure from the songs by the superstar brother-sister (Richard and Karen) duo that helped define soft rock in the 1970s, with such upbeat hits as "Close to You," "We've Only Just Begun," and "Top of the World."

The tune, as the title implies, deals with the loss of love and the unlikelihood of ever regaining in. Karen's expressive vocal accentuates the moodiness of the lyrics. And right in the middle of it, we hear Tony Peluso's soaring fuzz guitar that takes the song to new heights.

The song opens mournfully and never lets up:

"I'll say goodbye to love

No one ever cared if I should live or die
Time and time again the chance for love
has passed me by
And all I know of love
is how to live without it
I just can't seem to find it."

Later she sings:


"All the years of useless search
Have finally reached an end
Loneliness and empty days will be my
only friend"

If there is a ray of hope, it's in the final verse:

"What lies in the future
is a mystery to us all
No one can predict the wheel of fortune
as it falls
There may come a time when I see that
I've been wrong
But for now now this is my song."

But it closes on a sad note:

"And it's goodbye to love
"I'll say goodbye to love."

And then Peluso's guitar drives the song to a powerful end.

One reason this song touches me so much is because Karen died in 1983,  at the age of 32, of complications from anorexia nervosa, an eating disorder that causes people to lose weight to the extreme. I often wondered if she felt unloved in her final years.

I'll admit that I wasn't a big fan of the Carpenters during their heyday (although I loved this song), but I've come to admire appreciate them through the years for their mature and heartfelt songs.

"Goodbye to Love"  reached No. 7 on the Billboard charts in 1972. The Carpenters had three No. 1 songs and their catalog of music has more than 100 million in sales. 

"Goodbye to Love" lyrics