That's how I interpret Carly Simon's "That's the Way I've Always Heard It Should Be." In this case, it's about getting married and settling down even though there are strong indicators that it may not be a wise decision.
This heartfelt and melancholy song opens with the narrator walking through the living room and notices that her father is sitting alone in the dark, smoking a cigarette, commenting:
Then the narrator walks past the master bedroom, where her mother is reading magazines:
Then the chorus:
Then the narrator reflects on her friends from college who are married:
And then the narrator views considers losing her identity despite the other person's reassurances:
And in the end:
Simon composed the music and Jacob Brackman wrote the lyrics of this 1971 hit, her first, which reached No. 10 on the Billboard Hot 100. She received a Grammy Award for Best Female Pop Vocal Performance.
Simon, along with Carole King and Joni Mitchell, led the way in recording introspective and socially relevant songs. Vanity Fair magazine referred to them as "the rebel angels."
Simon, who still performs and records, turned 70 on June 25.
"That's the Way I've Always Heard It Should Be" lyrics